I’m an introvert so I spend lots of time alone. But I also like people and have strong social skills, I’m quite charming. I’ve got the ability to make friends fast, when I want to.
I can do that because I have tons of practice with first-impression situations. I switched schools several times when I was a kid. Then I worked in restaurants and bars for years. Later I honed my social skills by going on hundreds of dates.
Being able to make friends fast is a valuable thing. Buddies obviously enhance you life. They make it richer, more interesting, and much more fun. But that same skill can also help your game – you can use it to build social proof.
In seduction terminology, social proof means you’ve been vetted. It means you’re popular, people know you, and that you’re in demand. And you can leverage that popularity to your advantage.
Being seen with attractive women in public is a great way to build social proof. For example, let’s say you visit the same coffee shop every morning. Some days you’re alone. But other days, you show up with your hot young girlfriend. The cute barista girl working there notices. Then eventually, the barista bangs you.
Making friends fast can also help create social proof. Say you’re a tourist traveling solo in a foreign country. You’re stay in a small town for one week. Nobody knows you at first. But after a few days, you’ve made the rounds. You’ve introduced yourself to the locals and chatted with many them. Now they recognize you when you’re out on the street. Then you meet a tourist girl. On your first night out together, she notices that the locals know you. She marvels at your friend-making skills. Later that night, she sleeps with you.
Of course, social proof alone won’t get you sex. You still need some money, game, style, etc. But social proof is like a hack, it’s a force multiplier. Use it right, and you won’t have to work quite so hard getting laid!
Now let’s explore ways introverts can learn to create social proof, fast:
1) Travel Solo
Traveling alone is a great way to improve your social skills. When you travel by yourself, you have two choices. Either be alone, or make some new friends. Making friends is better. And when you take shorter trips, your don’t have much time. So you must act fast if you want results. This is excellent practice for introverts. And when you get back to regular life, your friend-making abilities will have leveled up.
2) Leave The House Daily
If you wanna get to know people, you gotta leave the house! When you’re on vacation it’s easy because you’re motivated to explore. But at home, you can almost always justify lying low. Are you an introverted person who likes staying home all the time? Believe me, I understand. But you can’t make friends that way! So leave your house at least once a day, even if you work from home. Visit restaurants, coffee shops, bookstores, libraries, or bars. Focus on places where you might hang out later on, when you’re with a new girl.
3) Be Happy & Friendly
Get out of your comfort zone. Be friendly and open. That way, people will like you and remember you. Try to take a genuine interest in them. Be nice, smile, and make eye contact. If they look like good people, approach them.
4) Talk To Everyone
Speak with any friendly looking person who crosses your path. The more people you talk to, the more people will remember you. You’re not trying to get anything out of them. So just have fun and enjoy your conversations. This is also great for guys who do day game. Approaching and talking with strangers helps improve cold approach skills, in general. But it’s also good daily warmup, prepping you for real approaches later in the day.
5) Become A Regular
Talking to everyone is a good start. But focus your efforts on employees or customers at places you’ll re-visit. Bartenders, waiters, hosts, valets, street vendors, the local drunks, and other people like them. Go back to your favorite places, and get to know the people who are always there. This creates bankable social proof you can use later on, when you return with a new girl.
6) Tip Well
Let’s say you’ve discovered a cool new bar, and you know you’ll be back. Always tip generously, the first time you’re there. For one thing, it’ll buy you good service for the rest of that night. But it will also establish a solid relationship right away. Bartenders and waiters remember good tippers!
Learning to create social proof in public is a skill that all introverted men should learn.
So develop this ability.
You’ll be rewarded with more friends, more fun, and easier lays.
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