I read an interesting blog called Didact’s Reach. Didact’s a deep introvert who writes about life, masculinity, and game post-red pill. He’s one of the better new bloggers in the manosphere. Anyhow, Didact sent me this email the other day:
I’ve been reading your blog for a while and I quite like your take on red pill dating. I’m introverted, like you. Probably much more so. That is why I’m having a lot of difficulty figuring out the best way to get into the game. I’m trying to do so in a manner that is compatible with the introvert’s natural desire to stay away from crowds and noise. I hope you’ll take a moment to answer a few questions:
- Did you sharpen your skills through cold approaches first, or did you start with internet dating?
- What have been the most critical skills for success in your conquests?
- As an introvert, what are the most difficult issues that you have to overcome, and how do you do it?
I think introvert game has been under-explored in the manosphere. It does seem like a lot of the “advice” men get, in game and life, is meant for extroverts. I think that can be confusing and difficult for many introvert men. I know it was for me, until I realized what was going on.I sharpened my rusty game with internet dating. It’s a great place for introverted men like us to start. It eliminates the need for cold approaching. The computer acts as a buffer make it easier to take the rejection. That being said, you still have to go on the first date and seduce the woman…so it still forces you to learn game. And you still take real life rejection, which is good practice.
I honed my skills on receptive girls by going on dozens of first dates. Then I could focus on the one-on-one dates, one girl at a time. And once I did a ton of internet date my game was tighter in general. Then, day game approaches got easier. One area that has been important to my success (as an introvert) is learning good harem management skills. It’s an important subset of game, especially for us. Better to keep what you have then go find new women. And when sitting on a harem, it’s easier to pull new pussy (when you want to). My weakness is laziness, I don’t like trying too hard to get laid. I have the tendency to allow 1 or 2 women to become too important in my life. As far as overcoming these issues? Practice, just being a better man in general. And as you already know, taking the Red Pill forces you down the self-improvement path.
Didact promises to document his journey – I look forward to reading about his game development. His email also got me thinking more about introvert game. Should men take dating advice from women? Of course not. So, should introverted men take dating advice from extrovert guys?
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