A while back I wrote a post called How To Verbally Dominate Your Woman.
It caused some strong reactions.
Some people understood what I was saying.
Others didn’t get it.
The haters thought I went too far; that I was encouraging guys to abuse their women.
I think the negativity was mostly due to confusion – some people mistake dominance for being domineering.
So what’s the difference?
Aren’t dominance and being domineering basically the same thing?
No, they’re not.
7 Differences Between Domineering Men & Dominant Men
How is a domineering man different from a dominant man?
1) Physical Abuse
Being physically abusive towards women is classic domineering behavior. He hits with closed fists, tries to hurt her, and enjoys inflicting real pain.
A dominant man doesn’t hit his women, although he will get rough in bed. Instead of his fists, he uses nexting to guide her behavior.
2) Verbal Abuse
Chronically verbally abusive towards his woman in a nasty, hurtful, and un-playful way.
A dominant man isn’t verbally abusive – he’s verbally dominant. He uses the verbal pimp-slap very sparingly.
He acts like a real asshole most (or all) of the time. And he doesn’t soften it with playfulness or love or teasing.
Is a playful jerk. He treats his girl like an annoying little sister. He’s an asshole, yes. But he’s a charming asshole.
4) Fear Of Losing Her
Fears losing his girl. His domineering behavior stems from his fear. And his fear stems from his emotional weakness and insecurity. He isn’t confident he can replace her.
Doesn’t fear losing his woman. Ideally, that’s because he has a harem to fall back on. And if he doesn’t have a harem? He knows he can get a new women, fast.
5) Valuing Relationships
Is deadly serious about his romantic relationships. And his un-flexible cave-man attitude can lead to all kinds of bad behavior.
A dominant man takes women much less seriously. He might love her, sure. But he knows she’s replaceable, and his attitude and actions reflect that.
6) Emotional Strength & Frame
Domineering behavior reflects a deep lack of emotional control – a rotten foundation. So he reacts to his woman’s behavior. He allows himself to get angry, jealous, upset, or enraged depending on how she acts.
A dominant man has strong emotional control when it comes to women – a solid core. He maintains a calm attitude when dealing with her. No matter how she acts; he never lets her draw him out.
Has no strong internal core, so he can’t effectively lead her. Uses his abuse and anger and fists to hide this fact.
Naturally leads his romantic relationships. He listens to her and values her opinions. But he makes the final decisions.
Domineering behavior is weakness and insecurity manifest as negative action – it’s a huge red flag.
But male dominance is vital to strong game – it’s the key to healthy and long-lasting romantic relationships.
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