I found Latecia on OKCupid about a month ago. She was an attractive 22-year-old half-black, half-white girl. We exchanged numbers and she actually texted me first. I gave her a choice – come straight to my house for drinks and a movie, or a coffee shop date. She chose coffee, and we agreed to meet a few days later.
The day of the date, I arrived on time. But I stayed in my truck, since she wasn’t there yet. I slumped down as I waited, skulking like a private investigator on a stakeout because I didn’t want her to see me when she pulled up. Then she walked right by me as she entered the shop, no car. Strange, because I knew she owned a vehicle. Later, I learned that she lived close by, so that’s why she’d walked. I came in right after her and we hugged hello.
Latecia was short, with clear light skin and long, curly, black hair. Her eyes were unusual. They were huge and light brown, almost hazel. She had a tight little body and she’d dressed up – a leopard-print tank top, tight-fitting jeans, and heels. No tattoos, pretty nails, and nice white teeth. She had quite the youthful glow, and there was definitely some chemistry…
We ordered drinks, I led her to a table, and we relaxed and talked for while. She was a sweet and feminine girl. We chatted about our previous jobs, travel, and life in general. Then I steered the conversation towards dating, sex, and relationships. She seemed hesitant to discuss sex though, so I didn’t push the issue. Instead, I started in with the touching and put my hands all over her. She responded well and even touched me back a little.
I had a decision to make. I normally cut all my dates off at exactly one hour to save time and money. But this girl was obviously attracted to me. I figured the odds of of us sleeping together the same night were pretty good. So I asked her to come over and watch a movie. She agreed. She jumped in my truck and we drove to my place.
Once we got home, we watched a movie and I smoked a bowl. We couldn’t keep our hands off each other; we made it just halfway through the flick before we started getting naked. She offered some token resistance, but eventually I led her upstairs and we had sex. She couldn’t spend the night though, so I drove her home later on after that.
I sent her a cheerful anti-rape text the next morning, she responded fast and agreed to a second date.
She came over a few days later, we had dinner, and then had sex again.
Latecia and I get along well.
Despite a few small red flags, she seems loyal, and we’re still together as of this writing.
I think there is good potential for a long-term relationship.
But of course only time will tell how long it lasts…
So, we’ll see.
Total Cost: $10 on first date
Time Spent: Around 4-5 hours to first-time sex
Lesson Learned: It’s OK to extend a first date, if you think you’ll sleep with her that night.