When you live abroad, you’ll naturally compare the culture you’re living with the culture where you grew up. Doing this broadens your understanding of both foreign nations AND your home country.
But it also makes you introspective – it helps you understand yourself. Because like it or not, we’re molded and shaped by the culture where we grew up.
And one thing I’ve learned after living in Latin America for over a year? American culture is cold. And that coldness permeates the American personality, too.
It’s funny – I don’t consider myself frigid. But multiple Latinas have complained that I’m emotionless and robotic and indifferent.
And if you grew up in an English-speaking country, you’re likely the same way. It’s just how we are.
Now, a tightly controlled demeanor is mandatory if you wanna do well with girls in the States. But things are different in Latin America. Act too cold here, and it’ll cause you problems.
I’ve lost several Latina girls because they thought I didn’t care about them (even though I actually did.)
Sure, the principles of game still apply to Latinas. But you’ve definitely gotta make adjustments with Spanish-speaking girls, if you want strong relationships with them.
Because the stereotypes are true – Latinas are more passionate than women of other races. And they’ll punish you for being too frigid!
Here are some tips for adapting your game to hot-blooded Latinas:
1) Don’t Be So Aloof
Like I mentioned, I’ve lost Latina girls because I’ve seemed too un-caring. This is easy to fix. Just pay more attention to her! Text her more often, see her a little more, even talk to her on the phone sometimes. Don’t go overboard. But if you care about your Latina girlfriend, pay more attention to her than you normally would.
2) Show Her Love
When a Latina shows you love, don’t ignore her affection. Show her love back. Don’t go nuts emoting all over her. But don’t be afraid to be sweet. Tell her you care about her, tell you love her. Say you want to see her and that you miss her. Sweet talk her, you charming bastard!
3) Touch Her A Lot
Touching is a huge part of Latin culture. If a Latina likes you, she’s constantly gonna have her hands on you. Kissing, hugging, and rubbing up on you. Again, don’t ignore this or blow her off. Mirror her behavior. Touch her, often, to show her you care.
4) Use More PDA
In America, public displays of affection (PDA) are frowned upon. But in Latin America, people get down in the street all the time. For example, in Mexico City, you’ll often see couples making out in public, hard. With no shame. It’s normal here. So adapt to the local culture, and don’t be afraid to put your tongue down her throat in public!
5) Respond To Her Jealousy
Some Latinas are insanely jealous of other girls. Jealousy displays are her way of showing you how she feels. And it works both ways. If you display a little (controlled) jealousy, it’ll let her know you care for her too. This is a balancing act. Show her too much jealousy and you’ll appear weak and insecure. But don’t show any, and she’ll think you just don’t give a shit.
6) Tolerate Foreplay-Fighting
Some Latinas view arguing, screaming, and yelling as foreplay. How far they take it depends on them. Usually it’s just play-fights and yelling followed up by hot sex. American men might see this as drama, a reason to dump her. And with Western girls, yeah, I’d advise against any kind of fighting. But some Latina women like it, and they seem to expect it. So fight back – just keep it light and playful.
7) Learn Spanish
If your goal is dating Latinas, you’ve gotta learn Spanish. How else will you sweet-talk her properly? I recommend using Pimsleur; combined with full immersion through living in a Spanish-speaking country. And once you have a Spanish-speaking girlfriend? You can learn even more Spanish from her – like a free personal tutor.
8) Combine With Strong Game
Just because you’re acting more affectionate towards her doesn’t mean you’ll stop practicing tight game. So sure, show her love. But never let your game slip. Ruthless American-style game, tempered with Latino-style passion, is a powerful combination that will have your Latina addicted and coming back for more.
Of course, not all Latinas are passionate. Just like not all gringos are cold.
But in general, those stereotypes are true.
If you’re a normal American guy who wants to do well dating Latinas, you’ll need to understand that. And you must adjust your game.
Do it successfully and you’ll be rewarded with more hot Latina love than you can handle.
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