I recently went on a first date with a tall, pretty redhead from California. Sexy girl, but cold and haughty. Zero chemistry.
During our floundering date, I noticed someone else. Our bartender. A tiny blue-eyed girl with fair skin, her long blonde hair tied up in a bun. Later I learned she was 30 years old. She was so petite she looked much younger.
Anyhow, Blondie kept making strong eye contact with me. She was being extremely flirty. So much so that she actually irritated Red, who made a snotty remark about it.
My date with Red went nowhere. She turned down my offer to come home. I never saw her again.
But I made a mental note – I’d come back later to visit Blondie.
About two weeks after that, I was bored on a Monday evening. I’d had a new OKCupid date scheduled for that night, but the girl flaked on me.
So there I was. In date mode, with no date.
I decided to visit Blondie at her bar, instead of staying home.
I would be rolling solo. And, I wasn’t even sure if she’d be working.
I went anyway.
The bar was packed with regulars when I arrived. Mostly friendly, youngish white dudes. Neighborhood bros who all knew each other. The bar had a restaurant, most of the clientele was drinking beer and eating dinner.
Blondie was there. Good. I posted up at the far end of the rough wooden bar. Pounded a few frosty domestic drafts and ate a tasty chicken pot pie. Nonchalantly watched some ESPN.
I figured she’d come to me. I was right.
Blondie was busy at first, but she kept stopping to chat during the lulls. After a while, it cleared out, and we talked more. We both owned cats, and traded numbers so we could exchange cute feline photographs.
About two hours after I’d arrived, it was time to go. As we hugged goodbye I told her we needed to hang out soon.
She agreed, and she’d already texted me again by the time I’d gotten home. We scheduled a date.
A few nights later, I picked her up at her house. She had no car.
It was still early, but dark, cold, and rainy outside. We fought through rush-hour traffic; finally ending up at a local Mexican restaurant bar.
I paid for our drinks. No food. She was small, but impressed me with her drinking abilities. After a few rounds and some heavy kino at the bar, I asked her to come to my house. She agreed.
We picked up a bottle of sweet tea vodka on the way home (she paid). Back at my house, we had a few more drinks and toked some green bud. Watched a movie on the couch. Both of us buzzing hard now.
I knew she was into it, so I escalated fast. She gave me some token resistance but we both got naked quickly. We were very sexually compatible. She was incredibly flexible, light-weight, and enthusiastic. I let her sleep over since I had no desire to drive.
We had sex again in the morning. Then I took her home.
She texted me first, later the same day.
My response was…lacking.
Blondie: Thanks for the good time last night… I would not be upset if that happened again
MF: Yes. Want to see you again.
Blondie: Yeah? Ill be in touch…
And then what do you think happened? Take a guess…
She flaked on our next date. We rescheduled. Then she flaked again. The texts stopped.
I was curious. I looked her up on Facebook.
Sure enough, her status showed “In A Relationship.”
So, that partially explains the one-night-stand.
But, I also have to take blame for blowing her out. Sure, the seduction and lay were well-executed. But, I didn’t keep my text game tight. Yeah, I know it seems ridiculous. But weak text game WILL hurt you. Learn from my mistake. Keep your post-sex texts non-needy.
Thankfully, I was still banging other girls at the time. So, losing Blondie really wasn’t a big deal. But still, she should have been added to my rotation, not lost. Remember, attractive women with options are NOT going to tolerate any beta-style weakness.
Even if your game is strong overall.
Total Cost – Broke even. I spent $21 on her, but she left $25 worth of vodka at my house.
Time Spent – About 5-6 hours to first sex
7 Things Done Right
- Established social proof first by showing up with another attractive woman.
- Sniper/Stalker game. Saw an opportunity, made a mental note, got what I wanted.
- Aggressively got her number fast.
- Good pre-date text game. I let her come to me. Kept texts to minimum.
- Multiple venue changes, plus final bounce to my house.
- Stayed flexible under challenging date circumstances. Rainy weather, her lost ID, etc.
- Got first date sex.
6 Things Done Wrong
- Let my feelings about another relationship (Janelle leaving me) affect my game.
- Let Blondie spend the night. Should have driven her home the same night.
- Was too nice to her the next morning
- Texted Blondie back too fast after her post-sex text.
- Affirmed my interest by sending a needy text. HUGE mistake.
- Got irritated with her rescheduling and flakiness, with predictable results.
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