I’ve taken a strong stance against lying to women in long-term relationships.
And I stand by that, because lying to women to keep them around shows weak inner game.
I was recently forced to practice what I preached – I had to choose between truth and lies.
Remember, back in June, when I got a new roommate?
A 20-year-old stripper named Hannah.
But there was just one problem.
I was still dating my girlfriend Leticia, at the time.
Now, Leticia knew about my previous roommates. She also knew I date the other girls. So she was very uneasy about my new living situation.
She pressed me; she wanted reassurance.
Finally, I buckled. I told Leticia I probably wouldn’t fuck Hannah.
But of course it didn’t work out that way.
I ended up fucking Hannah, repeatedly.
Of course, I kept quiet about it, until after she moved out.
But the day after Hannah left, Leticia asked me about it…
“Did you fuck that stupid stripper slut?”
I almost lied, just to keep the peace.
But instead I told her the truth.
And of course, she freaked out.
She was so upset, I thought she would leave me for good.
But she didn’t, she stayed.
So how was I able to keep her?
How To Tell Her You Banged Another Girl…
Without losing her.
First off, you can avoid this situation altogether by never promising monogamy.
That way, you can never cheat.
Normally, that’s exactly what I do.
But what if you have promised monogamy, or implied it?
If you know the infidelity conversation is coming, get an STD test.
She will likely be worried about disease.
And even if she isn’t, it could come up.
So nip that fear in the bud.
Get tested before talking about your indiscretion.
Have your results on hand (printed out) if necessary.
Once she asks if you banged another woman, tell her yes right away.
Brutal truth is the best policy here.
It’s like ripping off a Band-Aid.
Just get it done, fast.
Don’t Say Sorry
Are you sorry?
So don’t pretend you are.
She may press you for details.
Names, what that other slut looked like, where she works – she may even demand to see photos of your conquest.
It’s her way of trying to control the situation.
In general, it’s best to deny those requests, avoiding more drama.
Don’t Defend ‘That Slut’
She may talk shit about the girl you had sex with.
If she knows her, knows what she looks like, she’ll likely get mean and personal.
That’s fine – let her vent.
Whatever you do, don’t defend the other woman!
It’s not your job to defend a slut’s honor, and doing so will just infuriate your main girl even more – not worth it.
Prepare For Tears
She will almost certainly cry during all this.
Don’t let them sway you…
Frame control is important here.
She can rage if she wants, but you must stay calm the entire time.
Be Ready To Let Her Go
Yes, she may end it.
That’s her trump card.
But you can kill her power by being 100% ready to let her walk.
There’s the door.
At this stage, it’s tempting to make promises, just to calm her down.
Don’t do it – don’t make promises you can’t keep.
That will just set up you up for worse drama later.
You don’t need to make big promises to get away with what you did…
Once she’s calmed down a bit, it’s time to shower her with affection.
Tell her that you can make it work.
Say you love her (if you do.)
She just wants to know that you care for her – and her only.
Explain that those others are just girls you use for fun, with no emotion attached.
She’s your main girl, and she always will be…
Remember, She’s Not You
Telling her you fucked another woman isn’t the same as her telling you she fucked another dude.
So, don’t assume she’s feeling the same way you would feel in her shoes.
Understand this – it’s very possible that your infidelity secretly turns her on.
Oh, she’ll never admit that – but pre-selection is real.
Now, she knows you can seduce and bang other females.
This will trigger powerful, primal feelings in her.
And if you play it right, you can use that to your advantage.
It’s Not Over
Your cheating doesn’t always mean the relationship is over.
Yes, assume that she’ll leave.
She may actually leave you for a while.
But if you can keep your frame strong, and she really loves you, then she’s likely not going anywhere for long.
Just wait, she’ll be back.
She should be afraid to lose you.
But you shouldn’t be afraid to lose her.
In practice, that means making her fall in love with you, and (severely) limiting her options.
While at the same time; embracing abundance and knowing she’s easily replaceable.
That way, when you drop an infidelity bombshell on your relationship, it’s less likely to cause permanent damage.
And that’ll put you in the best possible place – where you have your cake, and eat it too.
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