After you practice day game for a while, you start noticing two kinds of girls in public:
1) Girls who give you indicators of interest (IOIs),
2) Girls who ignore you or don’t see you.
So, which ones should you approach?
Well, if you’re attracted to her, you should approach her right away – IOI or not. You can’t wait around for her to notice you! Pure cold approach (no IOI) is a valuable skill that every man should master. But it’s also a high-rejection, high-energy tactic. So it’s not sustainable for many guys, at least over the long-term.
Most men are probably better off approaching women who have expressed interest – saving him valuable time and energy and improving his results.
But to do that, a man must read and understand female non-verbal communication. Some hints are more subtle than others:
1) Eye Contact
Ever notice how girls are great at avoiding eye contact when they don’t like you? It works both ways – most female eye contact is entirely on purpose. If she’s looking at you in the face, she’s interested. And the more often she locks eyes with you, the more interested she is.
Staring is eye contact on steroids. If she stares, she almost definitely wants you to approach. If you do lock eyes with her though, be sure to ‘win’ the stare down. Don’t break eye contact first, or you’ll look weak. Younger women are more likely to stare, older women usually have more self-control.
This sign is harder to read. If a woman wants to talk to you, a strange man in public, she’s probably not gonna approach you. Instead, what she’ll do is linger around your area for a while, often for no reason. This is on purpose – she’s hoping that you’ll notice her and talk to her. More likely to happen in places like bookstores or coffee shops, though it can happen on the street.
More common at gyms, the beach, yoga studios, etc. She’ll let you know she wants you by presenting her body to you. Maybe bending over in front of you (showing you her ass) when she picks up her weights. Or ‘bowing’ towards you at the waist to show off some cleavage.
5) Twirling Hair & Grooming
When a girl plays with her long hair in front of you, it’s a less aggressive form of displaying. It’s her way of catching your eye and saying “Hey, look at me and how pretty I am! Come talk to me!” Grooming is similar. If she starts doing things like putting on her makeup or brushing her hair in front of you, she’s probably interested.
6) Asking Questions
Curious women ask questions. If she actually likes you, she’ll want to know personal details about you – where you’re from, what you do, your age, and so on. If she doesn’t ask, she probably doesn’t give a shit and you should move on.
7) Remembering Your Name
If she remembers your name from previous encounters, that’s a good sign. Women tend to remember things about the men they like – including their names.
8) Pointing Her Toes
Another subtle but important sign. Do you want to know if she’s attracted to you? Look at her feet and toes when she’s sitting down. Where are they pointing? A seated woman will often subconsciously point her toes towards the guy she wants.
9) Rubbing Up On You
When a woman brushes her body (or her long hair) against you, it’s not usually not accidental. And if she rubs up against your body with her tits or ass, that’s a very obvious signal.
10) Touching You
Touching you with her hands during conversation is a powerful sign. Don’t misread this one, though. Yes, touching your hands or arms usually means she likes you. But remember, some woman are more naturally touchy-feely (they touch everyone, not just you.)
Learning to read female interest is a good skill for any man who wants to save time and energy. And it makes your game more efficient – helping you gauge female interest before committing to an approach.
Of course, none of these signs is absolute. But generally, they’re important non-verbal cues.
So if an attractive woman does this stuff around you, she’s probably interested. And you should approach her right away, because she’s likely gonna respond well.
What do you have to lose?