In my last post we talked about using sex talk during the seduction phase. In today’s post we’ll discuss another vital part of first date seduction – touching.
Touching women on first dates is extremely important. It’s mandatory, in my opinion. You can skip the sex talk and still be successful. But you can’t skip the touching!
Why Touch Her On The First Date?
How does touching help you get laid?
First – touching a girl gets her used to your hands on her. If you’re gonna have sex with her, you’re gonna need to touch her, right? So touching her on first dates is like pre-foreplay. It gets her comfortable with you. And it makes it easier to transition into kissing, real foreplay, and sex.
Second, it’s a big non-verbal statement. She’s not stupid. If you’re caressing her hair, face and body, holding her hands, and rubbing her legs? She know exactly what you want – there’s no confusion about your intentions.
Third, it helps screen out the ‘no’ girls. If a girl doesn’t like your hands on her, if she’s clearly uncomfortable, then she’s probably not gonna fuck you. And so you can next her fast and move on.
How Should You Touch Her?
Touching women is easier than talking about sex. But even so, there is an art to touching new girls. You can’t just grab her by the throat or start grabbing her ass right away! You gotta use finesse.
Here’s the progression:
1) Greeting Hug
When I meet a new girl for a first date, I’ll give her a quick hug hello. In Latin America, this includes a quick kiss on the cheek. In Western countries, skip the kiss.
2) First 15 Minutes
After the hug, I won’t touch the girl right away. Instead, I’ll make sure the seating arrangements are correct. I sit close to her, so I can reach her easily when it’s time to start touching her.
3) Touching Legs
Before I start touching her with my hands, I’ll press my knee or thigh against her leg. If she doesn’t pull away from your leg touching hers; that’s a good sign.
4) Light Touching
After 15 minutes, I’ve had time to read her. I can tell if she wants me to touch her or not. If so, I’ll start doing it. Lightly at first. Usually it’s best to start touching her during a high note. For example, if something is funny during your conversation, you can touch her hand or forearm when you both laugh.
5) Asking Her Physical Questions
Ask questions that give you an excuse to touch her. Ask about her manicure. Compare your hand sizes. Ask to see her tattoos – and try to touch all of them. See if she works out – then squeeze her bicep and thigh muscles while she flexes for you. Inspect and touch her jewelry and any piercings.
6) Heavy Touching
If she’s responding well, now you can start touching her more heavily. Stroking her hair is a good place to start. From there you can touch her scalp, neck, and shoulders. Obviously this works best if her hair is long. You put one arm around her, then absent-mindedly stroke her hair while she talks. Like you’re not even thinking about it.
Hand-holding seems cheesy. But it’s effective on first dates. It’s a good way to continue physical contact after you’ve touched her all over and now need to dial down the intensity.
If you want to get laid on the first date, then you’ve gotta go for the kiss. A first date kiss is a great screening tool. You can gauge a her interest in you by how she kisses you. If she’s passionate and enthusiastic, then you’re likely to get laid. If not? You may want to end the date and next her.
9) Be Natural
You want your touching relaxed and natural. Don’t force it, take your time. If it seems awkward at first, don’t worry. You’ll get better with practice.
If you want to successfully seduce new women, you must learn to touch them on first dates.
Skip it, and you may find yourself struggling.
But learn how to do it right, and your results should improve dramatically.
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