I’ve noticed something lately.
I’ve seen it on forums, blog posts, Twitter, and even in real life:
Extroverted guys routinely give bad advice to introverted men
Typically you’ll see these ignorant extroverts inject themselves into introvert-focused conversations.
And then they’ll to lecture us.
Telling us to change our quiet ways.
You quiet guys can be gregarious and outgoing too, just like us, if you’ll just try harder!
They condescendingly talk about introversion like it’s a handicap.
Spouting off about ‘overcoming’ it.
As if introversion were a nasty addiction or disease.
An recent commenter summed it up nicely:
Spot on, Ximo.
Now I’m sure most extroverted people who their offer advice mean well.
They’re mostly good-hearted folks just trying to help their quiet brethren.
But from what I’ve seen?
Extroverts are mostly ignorant about introverts
And so their advice on anything having to do with our quiet personality traits is largely worthless.
Now sure, some types of advice are universal and apply to both personality types.
But in general introverts should be careful when accepting extrovert advice about game or anything else.
For one thing…
Introversion is a fixed personality trait
If you’re born an introvert then you’ll die an introvert.
So the idea that you can somehow ‘overcome’ or change your DNA?
And besides why would you want to?
Introversion is serious strength
True introverts are powerful people who excel at anything they set their minds to.
And that’s especially true when it comes to dating, relationships, and game.
That’s because introverts tend to display personality traits that are attractive to women:
Introverts are good at long periods of focus – we can spend hours doing just one thing.
That sometimes translates into obsession.
When we do something, like practice game, we tend to go whole hog.
And when we’re in relationships with girls?
We’ve often got something else occupying our attention; besides them.
And that focus also means we…
Love Of Solitude
Introverts crave solo time for various reasons.
We focus best when we’re alone, yes.
But introverts also need plenty of solitude so we can ‘recharge’ after social situations.
And that love of being alone makes introverts seem…
When you’re paying attention to something besides her and spending time alone, you come across as more aloof and independent.
And you will be – since you’re literally not thinking about her while you’re doing other things.
And since introverted guys don’t talk as much?
They seem more aloof and stoic in person..
Self-aware introverts are emotionally independent and mentally strong.
And once an introvert is aware of his natural weaknesses with women?
He can get even stronger by developing the right armor.
Introverts also do well with women long-term, since they’re usually…
Good At Long-Term Relationships
Even before I took the red pill, I was always pretty good at relationship game.
And most introverts are the same way.
We like long-term relationships.
So we’re skilled at building strong bonds with girls we care about.
And from what I’ve seen we’re also real good at making women fall in love with us, fast.
Add all these traits together?
Now you’ve got a man who is highly…
Mystery is kinda ‘intangible.’
And it’s not something I’ll focus on too much.
Because if an introverted man has all the qualities listed above then he’ll naturally seem more mysterious to women.
Without having to try.
We live in a world designed for extroverts
But you’ll never change your core personality, my introverted friend.
So don’t try.
Should you strive to become a better man?
And a big part of self-improvement is knowing yourself.
So realize that your introversion, if harnessed properly, is serious strength.
Reject the idea that it should be ‘fixed’ or ‘overcome.’
And embrace the way of the quiet man instead.
Is introversion weakness or strength?