In some ways, introverted men are better at game.
For example, many quiet guys are good at relationship game – adept at dealing with women they’ve already slept with.
Introverts are able to make strong emotional connections, so they’re skilled at harem management, plate-spinning, or even traditional monogamous relationships.
But in other areas, introverts under-perform their louder brethren.
The beginning part, the initial approach and seduction phase, is harder for quiet men. Meeting and seducing new women takes introverts out of their comfort zone.
In practice, most of that discomfort comes from direct approaches, online first dates, or social circle game. But you’ve gotta do those things to sleep with new girls.
So to be successful with women, quiet men must adopt the extrovert persona.
At least, sometimes.
Here’s how introverts can wear the extrovert skin:
Wearing the extrovert skin means talking to girls successfully. If you’re rusty that takes practice. Luckily, you can ease yourself into it.
Use a mirror and watch yourself talking out loud. Or record your voice, and play it back to find and correct verbal ticks. Call friends and family for a chat. Practice public speaking. Get a job at a restaurant or bar. And strike up random conversations with strangers, with no end goal in mind.
Make it happen
If you wanna meet girls, you’ve gotta resolve to get out there and do it. The world doesn’t care if you’re introverted, and staying home won’t get you women.
So set seduction goals.
And achieve them with ruthless introvert focus.
The point is to pick one game approach, then master it.
Minimize alcohol and drug use when you’re in seduction mode. Alcohol or uppers can become social crutches, cannabis or downers can put you too deep in your head.
Moderate use can be acceptable. For example, I follow the two drink rule on first dates – usually just one but never more than two beverages per date. That allows me a nice buzz, and loosens me up without getting out of control.
But if you’re starting off in the game, you’ll likely want a clear head – so keep drinking to a minimum.
This is game 101. Looking your best helps you act your best – just common sense.
Being well-dressed gives you the added edge, the confidence you need to seal the deal.
You don’t have to suit up – though there’s nothing wrong with that. A well-fitted v-neck, nice jeans, and high-quality belt and boots can go a long way.
Calibrate for your location.
Go it alone
Introverts are built for solo game, lone wolf seduction. You don’t need a crew backing you up.
If you’re a quiet man, this already makes sense to you. You’re already used to going it alone; doing things by yourself.
So game should be the same.
Seduce solo – with no wingmen.
Choose venues wisely
Seduction already takes you out of your comfort zone.
So choose places that make you feel comfortable. Places that fit you, and are conducive to game.
If you’re cold approaching during the day – then malls or coffeehouses will be best, depending on your city. If you’re going on online first dates? A quiet bar or coffee shop will do. Social circle game? Small, intimate social gatherings are preferable to large parties.
Set yourself up for success, put yourself in a position of strength, and don’t handicap yourself with bad locations.
Have an exit plan
Never put yourself in a situation where you’re stuck and can’t leave where you’re at. You must be able to escape when you want. So always drive yourself, or have a clear way to leave and get back to your pad. In practice, that means gaming (fairly) close to your place.
This serves two purposes:
- You can get home quickly when it’s time to recharge.
- Your logistics are tight – you can easily get a girl back to your place when things go well.
Wear the Extrovert skin
Wearing the extrovert skin is similar to acting.
But it’s not, because you’re not faking it.
You’re just projecting your most social self – a slightly exaggerated version of your personality. And that can be a lot of fun; especially when that causes someone to respond well.
Basically, if you “pretend” to be an extrovert, you become one.
For a little while.
So how would you put that in practice?
For example, let’s say you’re on an online first date.
Once she’s in front of you, focus on your actions, what you can control.
Don’t worry about who’s around or who might be listening.
Listen to what she’s saying – don’t get into your own head.
But think before you speak, and talk slowly when you do.
Control the conversation with questions – but let her talk 80 percent of the time.
Project your voice loudly, so she can hear you.
Maintain strong eye contact – eye fuck her, hard.
And also use other forms of non-verbal communication – touch her aggressively, and use hand movements when you speak. Alternate that with indifferent body language – leaning back in your chair, legs spread, hands crossed behind your head.
And always be mentally ready for the inevitable rejections…
Do short bursts, then rest
No need to strain yourself.
Only game for as long as you’re comfortable.
You don’t need to be out for hours. It only takes a few minutes to get number. And first dates can be capped at around sixty minutes.
Rejected? No worries.
Go home, relax, and re-charge.
There will other girls.
If things go well?
Bring her to your place, complete the seduction, and…
Enjoy the spoils
You’ve earned it, player.
Once you’ve gotten her back to your place and scored, enjoy your win.
Now you can relax a little.
You’re not done gaming yet, but you’re in more familiar territory.
If she’s worth it, build a relationship – add her to your harem, make her your girlfriend, or anything in between.
Next her and move on if she’s not.
If you’re an introvert who wants girls, you’ve gotta take action, be flexible, and evolve.
Acting like an extrovert is an adaptation, a way for introverted men to get what they want.
So, quiet man, learn to wear the extrovert skin and you’ll maximize your game results.