Back in 2013 I wrote about going on 50 first dates.
Well I’ve gone on a few more since then.
Yup, I’ve been on 112 first dates since September 2011.
And that’s just first dates.
If you add second and third dates, the number is around 150.
So how did I do?
Here are my stats:
- Total First Dates – 112
- Total Lays – 32
- Lay Ratio – 29%
- Age Of Girls Banged (average) – 24 years old
- Time Spent (average) – 80 minutes per date
- Average Cost – $8.23 per date
- One Night Stands – 12 total
- Total Spent – $1,094
- Blowjob Only – 2
I met most of these women on OKCupid. A few other girls came straight to my house after meeting me online, they also count as first dates. Two of these lays were my stripper roommates. For the sake of accuracy I counted them as first dates and added them both to the lay ratio.
How did I find the time?
That’s a lot of dates!
It’s because I treat dating like a business.
Wanna do the same?
Then you’ve gotta efficiently streamline your dating process.
1) Make Her Come To You
It’s always better if she comes to you. Make her come to your neighborhood – instead of you going to hers. There are three reasons for this. For one thing, it’s just more convenient for you. So it’ll save you time getting to the actual date venue. It’s also easier when it’s time to get her back to your house; since you live close by. And finally, it sets the relationship frame properly from the beginning. When you go to her, it can damage your frame. When you make her come to you, it puts you in a stronger position. Of course, not every first date will end in a relationship. But for the ones that do? Train her to come to you from the beginning.
2) Pick Her Up, Sometimes
There’s one major exception to the previous rule. If you live in a car-centric city, sometimes you’ll need to drive and pick girls up. This means jumping in your vehicle, driving to them, picking them up, and then going on the date. This is rare. It’ll usually only happen when the girl is young, new to the city, or too poor to own a car. If she can drive to meet you but is just too lazy to do it? Next her. If she legitimately can’t get to you? You can pick her up without damaging your frame. So stay flexible, play it by ear, and make occasional exceptions.
3) Harness Your Nerves
I wish I could tell you I felt nothing before a first date – just icy cool calm. But that’s not true. Even now, I still get pre-first date butterflies! This used to bother me. Why am I so fucking nervous? I’ve done this dozens of times. Eventually I realized it wasn’t real fear or anxiety – it was excitement. Like a football player feels in the locker room right before the big game. So learn to harness that energy, and use it to your advantage. Pre-date excitement is good, normal and helps your game. One good way to curb generalized first date ‘anxiety?’ Have all your first dates at a familiar place…
4) Have A Regular Date Spot
Meeting her at a place you know well will ease your first date jitters. So with few exceptions, you should take most of your dates to the same spot. A place close to your home is ideal so it fulfills rule one. And going to the same place repeatedly is also a good way to display social proof. For example, the baristas at my favorite coffee shop know me by name. And so they’ll say hi to me when I order drinks with a new date. It’s a minor thing, yes. But it shows that you’re a friendly, social, high-value guy who’s known around town. So what kind of venue should you choose?
5) Use A Coffee Shop/Bar Combo
I’ve tried many first date locations. Bars, coffee shops, movie theatres, dinners, even parks. So which is best for a first date? Specifically, what venue will increase your chances of getting laid? A cool local coffee shop that also serves alcohol is a solid choice. See, it’s the best of both worlds. You get the quiet ambiance of a coffee house which is very conducive to an intimate first date. But you can also get alcohol, which greases the wheels of seduction… And this type of place is great for mismatched couples. For example maybe you’re a man who doesn’t like to drink; but you’re on a date with a woman who likes alcohol. Or vice versa. Either way, the coffee shop/bar combo covers all your bases. OK, let’s say you’re on a first date with a new girl at a place close to your house. How long should the date last?
6) Keep Dates Under One Hour
Short dates are the key to maximizing your efficiency. I shoot for 60 minutes, 90 minutes tops. If you can’t convince her to fuck you within an hour – she’s probably never gonna bang you. So why waste more time? Have a hard time limit. If it doesn’t work out with her? Well then you only wasted an hour or so. If it does? Well then you’ve minimized your time invested before banging her.
7) Spend Less Than $10
There’s another reason I use coffee houses. I’m a cheap date. As you can see from my stats, my average first date cost is $8.23 – about the cost of an average cost of a round of drinks in Texas. This keeps your cost per date low and reduces your overall cost per orgasm. Yes, of course you’ll need some money to cover first date drinks. But remember; spending lots of money up front does not increase your chances of getting laid! So only buy a girl one round of drinks per date. If she wants more? Then she can pay for the second round.
8) Be Willing To Walk Out On Her
Do you date online? Eventually you’ll get catfished, i.e a girl who doesn’t match her pictures. So let’s say your date tricked you, and now you’re stuck with a fat, ugly, poorly dressed, or just plain bitchy girl. What should you do? Well, at one time I was scared to walk out on first dates. I thought it was rude or something. So I’d suffer through them and justify it as ‘practice.’ And now? I don’t give a fuck. If I don’t like a girl when I first see her in person? I’ll turn on my heel and walk out immediately.
9) Be Ready For Sex The Same Night
It took me a while to wrap my head around this. I was still stuck in the old ways of dating – where you didn’t bang a girl until you’d spent a lot of time with her. So I’d go on a lot of second and third dates, even fourth dates before having sex. These days? Sure some girls still make you wait. But for the most part? Most girls will fuck you fast if they like you. Usually within a few hours of meeting you. So you’ve gotta be willing to bang her on the first date. Make sure your place is ready for female company. So you’re one hour has ended, it went well, and you think she wants to bang you tonight. How can you get her home?
10) Have Bait
Give her a valid excuse to come home with you. You normally can’t just say “hey let’s go fuck.” Even if you know she wants to. So have a reason. Invite her over to watch a movie. Tell her you want her to meet your cat or dog. Or maybe even offer her some alcohol or weed if she’s into it. Whatever it is, if she wants to come home with you she’ll say yes.
11) Skip The First Date
So, there’s one way you can completely bypass all these rules. How? Find a girl online and have her come straight your place. It’s the ultimate lazy man game – pussy delivered to your doorstep free. And once she’s there? It’s usually smooth sailing – girls that come straight your house are almost always 100% down-to-fuck. Yeah, this scenario is rare, but it happens. This is specialized game though, and you can learn more about it here.
110 first dates!
It sounds kinda crazy when you say it out loud.
But that’s just how dating is today – it’s a grind.
So if you want to bang girls you like?
You must put in the work, player.
So use these tips.
They’ll streamline your process, make you more efficient, AND help you bang girls faster.
What are YOUR dating stats? How have you improved your dating process? Let me know in the comments below…
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