A reader sent me this email:
I bought your book on sex and found it insightful – thank you.
But the one part I wish there was MORE information on was near the end, about “passion” in sex. I think you’re really right when you said having passion during sex is what will separate you from other men. In fact it’s probably more important than any physical stimulation or position. Could you please go into more detail on your thoughts and experience on this?
- What exactly is passion?
- Why do woman like it?
- How do you do it?
- And what is your own experience with passion?
Anything will do – I seriously can’t find any info on this anywhere on the Internet. I would really appreciate it. Thanks for the great website.
Damn bro – those are serious questions.
You could debate this stuff for hours!
Well, I’m game. Let’s try to distill it into a blog post…
What is passion?
Merriam-Webster defines it:
Passion | noun | pas-sion | \ˈpa-shən\ A strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about doing something. A strong feeling (such as anger) that causes you to act in a dangerous way. A strong sexual or romantic feeling for someone.
So it’s is an emotional cocktail – a super emotion.
It includes good feelings like love, lust, and attraction. But it can be negative too – including anger, hate, and jealousy. Throw in pheromones, hormones, and endorphins; and now you’ve got a powerful mix.
Why do women like passion?
Many women live boring lives. They hate their jobs. And they’re surrounded by weak, feminine men.
So a passionate man stands out. He gives her the feelings she craves, the emotions that make her soul catch fire.
He takes her away from her mundane existence.
Women NEED passion in their lives.
If they don’t get it, they suffer, and they’ll start looking for it somewhere else…
How do you do you create passion?
It’s YOUR job as a man to lead your relationship.
You must guide it, nurture it, keep it healthy, make things exciting.
And in practice, that means creating and maintaining passion.
1) Show Controlled Emotion
Showing emotion to women is a balancing act.
Be an emotional rock most of the time.
But then every once in a while, show your emotions to her.
Express love, anger, affection, grief, or whatever.
Just make sure it’s appropriate AND keep it brief.
2) Touch Her Often
Touch is passion in physical form.
Do you have a hard time expressing emotion?
Then touch, caress, kissing, and hugging her are all good ways to offset your coldness and give her the passion she craves.
Touching her is a powerful way to instantly show her how you feel; without having to say it.
3) Dominate Her
Sexual dominance is clearly important in the bedroom.
But dominance outside the bedroom is just as important.
Really, it’s impossible to have a passionate relationship without male dominance.
So you must be the dominant partner in the relationship.
Take charge, act like a man, and she’ll respond properly.
4) Spend Time Apart
Spending too much time together is a common relationship mistake.
It’s true that familiarity breeds contempt.
So if you find yourself getting bored with her?
Or vice versa?
Spend time apart.
Soon she’ll be missing you badly.
It’s a relationship reset button; an effective way to re-kindle lost passion.
5) Make Her Jealous
Jealously turns women on.
Oh they’ll rarely admit it.
But it’s true.
And a jealous woman is a passionate woman.
So cultivate her jealousy.
Here are some tips for using her jealous nature to your advantage.
6) Keep Her Guessing
Another mistake men make in relationships?
Getting way too predictable.
I’ll admit that I’ve fallen into this trap myself…
For example, answering texts and calls promptly.
Or generally being sane, dependable, and civilized.
Don’t do it.
Be erratic and unpredictable instead.
Do you find yourself falling into a familiar pattern with her?
This will keep her wheels spinning and make you more exciting to her.
7) Be Intense
Intensity is probably the single most important part of showing passion during sex.
So how can you be more intense?
Intensity boils down to being super-concentrated on the present moment.
Do you wanna be more intense and passionate when banging her?
Pay 100% attention to NOW.
Don’t think about the past or the future.
Just focus on her, on what you’re doing, and on doing it well.
The rest will fall into place.
Can a man be passionate and still maintain his frame?
And this mix is vital.
Too much game and ‘maintaining frame?’
You’ll seem robotic.
And that’s when things get stale.
But too much passion?
Then you end up emoting all over her.
Neither situation is ideal.
But combine ‘cold’ game with ‘hot’ passion?
Then you’ll have a powerful combination, my friend.
What’s my personal experience with passion?
I’ve found that with some girls, passion comes easily and naturally.
With others, not so much.
Who knows why you feel passionate about some girls but not about others?
There’s no right answer.
I do know this – you can’t fake passion.
It’s either there or it isn’t.
You’ll know when it when you feel it.
And when you do?
Use these tips to cultivate it, nurture it, and strengthen your bond with her.
And if you’re not feeling passion with your current girl?
You know life’s short, player.
Maybe it’s time to move on and find it elsewhere.
Is passion is an important part of YOUR game? Why or why not?
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