Troy Francis recently published an article at Return Of Kings – 7 Tips For Building A Harem.
Tip #4 caught my eye. Troy advises players to carefully clean up their place before women visit – scrubbing evidence of other females.
But several ROK commenters took issue with that.
Real Alphas don’t NEED to clean to cover their tracks!
I live in the real world.
And in that world women have limits.
Is she a typical western girl who’s knowingly part of your harem?
Then you’re already pushing her limits.
Even if she knows the truth, she still wants to feel like she’s important – that there’s a future with you.
It’s partly how she justifies staying with you.
So let her have her fantasy.
The longer she believes it, the longer she’ll stick around.
Rubbing evidence of other girls in her face is just needlessly cruel.
And in some cases it’ll make her walk.
Which means more work for you – you’ll need to find a new girl[s] to replace her.
So yes, learning to clean your living space, to cover tracks properly, is vital for men who date multiple women.
Now don’t get me wrong.
Evidence CAN be a powerful tool for harem management.
But like all tools, it has a time and place.
It’s extremely effective if used properly.
But destructive if used incorrectly.
Where you are in the relationship will determine how to use evidence or even if you should even use it at all.
Now in the beginning of a relationship, before the exclusivity talk you’re in the honeymoon phase. Then, you DON’T need to clean up much. That’s because you do want her to find evidence, at first.
So you leave little clues for her to find. Evidence, but not proof.
That way she eventually realizes your banging other girls – those clues will lead to the exclusivity talk.
When depends on her. Some girls ask questions three weeks in, others might wait six months before bringing it up.
But eventually, she’ll ask.
She’ll want to know about your other girls, where is this relationship going, etc.
Of course, you can deflect. But at some point you’ll reveal the truth about the Big Picture.
You’re not monogamous. And you never will be.
Tell her how you feel about her, what you want from her.
She’ll likely keep dating you, if you’ve maintained strong frame and done everything else right.
Once she agrees to be non-monogamous with you, you’ve entered the relationship phase.
Now you’ve gotta be more careful – you’ve gotta clean up before she comes over.
And watch out – some girls will leave things on purpose for other girls to find. Marking their “territory.”
Here’s what to focus on when cleaning up:
- Clean any residual sex smell off yourself – shower or bathe between girls
- Change bed sheets, keep a spare set
- Sweep or vacuum excessive female hair from floors, counters, sinks, couches, beds, vehicles
- Clean lipstick off glasses
- Empty ALL trash cans
- Pick up used condoms & wrappers
- Wash any used sex rags or towels
- Lock your computer, no naked pics or sex videos on display
- Put up any female clothing – panties, bras, shorts, socks, etc.
- Put up spare toothbrushes
- Toss or hide personal effects (hair ties, clips, etc.)
- Use a red blanket or towel for period or virgin sex, wash it after
In short, just be sure to clean or remove anything that a woman might notice and get upset over.
Is all this mandatory?
No. Of course not.
If you don’t give a fuck if she leaves, don’t clean at all.
But if you’d like to keep her around? Then clean.
It just makes life easier for you – keeping your relationship drama to a minimum and giving your relationships longer shelf-life.
Read More: Never Promise Monogamy