There are certain basic principles that men must learn on their quest to master game.
Emotional control is one fundamental.
Women don’t respond well to emotional guys. So you gotta control your emotions around them. Otherwise they won’t stay for long. Money, looks, muscles – that means nothing if you can’t act like a Man in her presence.
But your control has to go deeper than that.
You must also develop real emotional control inside yourself – strong inner game.
Some might call this the ‘winner’s mindset.’
Arnold Schwarzenegger describes it in ‘Pumping Iron.’ He tells a story about his car being stolen a few days before his upcoming Mr. Universe competition. Now most folks would be very upset by this violation. But Arnold couldn’t be bothered. He didn’t even let it enter his mind. He called his insurance agent; then he forgot about it right away. He just let it go, immediately. Because of his ruthlessly focused and positive mindset, he won the competition.
Today we’ll focus on that specific part of emotional control – how to let things go, fast.
This is a simple but powerful concept.
Letting things go means you don’t dwell. When something bad happens, you don’t take it personally, and you don’t obsess over it. You let it pass without allowing it to affect your mood, mind, or spirit. You just bounce back and keep on going. And fast means you get over it quickly, in a matter of minutes or hours.
Obviously it’s best to not let things bother you in the first place; to never let them enter your mind. But for most men, outside events will affect our emotions – even those of us with a strong sense of self.
So how does letting things go apply to your game?
The strength of your game is largely determined by how good you are at dealing with constant rejection.
Because if you’re a man who wants to get laid, then you’re gonna be dealing with lots of women. Which means you’re gonna get rejected. All the time. And at every stage of the game…
Girls reject you when they swipe left on Tinder.
They reject you when they give you their number on Tinder, but then refuse meet you in person once you text them a few times.
When you approach them on the street, and they ignore you or laugh in your face.
They reject you when they give you their number from a cold approach, but then won’t text you back, or they won’t meet you for a first date.
They do it after a perfect cold approach, then a great first date (with no sex) – and you never see them again.
Girls reject you when they fuck you once, then they block you on WhatsApp.
Or when they half-heartedly fuck you for a few weeks – then they disappear.
They reject you when you date them for a year, then they get upset about your other women and leave you for another man.
You get my point….
Most of the time, you’ll never even know why. She’ll just ghost on you.
And for most men, that’s where the danger is – trying to figure out why.
Dwelling, obsessing, over-analyzing.
Why, why, why?
Why did she reject me?
What did I do wrong?
What could I have done differently?
What’s wrong with me?
Who gives a shit.
Wallowing serves no purpose.
Your life is too short to dwell on any one rejection. If you’re gonna be deep in the game – you’re gonna get rejected constantly. And their isn’t a damn thing you can do about it.
But you can control your response – you can let things go.
And you can do it fast.
So when the next time you experience a brutal rejection, accept the negative emotions that bubble up.
Don’t fight them.
Let the anger, hurt, shame, and loss flow thru you, like water.
But don’t hold on to any of it.
Let it all pass, fast.
If you’re really upset?
Letting Things Go Breathing Exercise
- Find a quiet place, where you won’t be disturbed
- Sit upright in a comfortable chair, or lie down on your back
- Place one hand on top of the other, over your navel
- Close your eyes and mouth
- Gently rest the tip of your tongue on the roof your mouth
- Begin breathing, slowly, through your nose
- But breath deeply with your stomach, not shallow with your chest
- Gently expand your diaphragm, belly, and obliques with each breath
- Feel the air entering the bottom of your lungs
- Focus on the rhythm, the air entering and exiting your body, relaxing you with each exhalation
- Do this for about 15 or 20 minutes
You’ll feel more clear-headed and calm after this process – the negative emotions will have passed.
If the bad thoughts bubble up again, just repeat the process.
Learning emotional control takes time.
But with experience and practice you’ll get good at letting things go, fast.
And that’ll make you happier, stronger, and ready for your next new experience.
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