I was talking to my best friend Craig on the phone the other day. We hadn’t spoken for a while so we were catching up, talking about our lives.
Now Craig and his wife Samantha have been married for almost 20 years. They’ve already got two teenagers. So I wasn’t surprised when he said he’d recently gotten a vasectomy.
But during our conversation he revealed something interesting. Craig told me his Mother had partly convinced him to get the snip. Before the procedure he’d consulted with her, to get her opinion. Craig had asked her this question:
“Mom, maybe I shouldn’t get the vasectomy, after all? Because what if I got divorced? Or if, God forbid, Sam or the kids died? And then what if maybe my new wife or girlfriend wanted children later on?”
Now of course this was all just hypothetical. There is almost zero chance Craig will leave his wife. He loves her dearly and he’s never cheated on her. So I’d actually bet heavily against the odds of them ever getting divorced.
But still, anything is possible, it could happen.
Maybe he should stay intact, you know, just in case?
His mother had laughed at his crazy idea..
“Craig, who do you think you are? You’re 40 years old! Do you honestly think you could actually meet a young woman who would want your babies, if something happened to Sam? Yeah, that isn’t gonna happen!”
Craig told me he agreed with his Mom. In his mind there was no way he’d ever attract young women again – never mind having kids with one! So he went ahead and got cut.
Later, I thought about it.
Was his Mom correct? What I mean is, was she right to say he couldn’t realistically expect to bang younger girls, due to his ‘advanced’ age? Well if you’ve read my blog, you already know the answer.
I love and respect my friend. And I always liked his Mom, she’s a savvy lady. But in this case, neither of them is correct. For one thing, she’s totally wrong about Craig.
Because if that guy was ever single again?
He would easily attract women. He’s a muscular, six-foot-two, 200-pound, blue-eyed white man. Confident, well-educated, successful, and wealthy. And he’s also what some call a natural womanizer (even if he chooses not to act on it). I’ve seen it first hand…women love him! So yeah he would clean up if he actually tried.
OK, that’s all well and good. Maybe Craig could attract women his own age with no problem. But what about young women? Most young girls (18-24) prefer men their own age, and they won’t date a guy aged 35+, right?
That has not been my experience.
Look, I’m not saying it’s easy. As a man gets older, he needs skill to seduce younger women. And even when a man has game, that’s not always enough. Because from what I’ve seen around two thirds of all young women have no interest in dating older men. But that still leaves a third of all younger women who will date older guys!
And just to give you an idea of what’s possible, here are some recent stats. I hooked up with all these girls at the end of 2017, when I was 39 years old:
- Jess – 20 (ONS)
- Natalia – 18 (ONS)
- Connie – 19 (ONS)
- Désirée – 23 (ONS)
- Amanda – 23 (TNS)
- Mariana – 18 (Fling)
- Alex – 24 (Relationship)
All these girls were clearly younger than me, yes. But there’s also an important point to make here. While hooking up with young women is pretty simple, keeping them around can be a challenge.
Four of these were one-night stands (ONS) – we had sex once and I never saw them again. One was a two-night stand (TNS). Another was a short-term fling – we banged just a handful of times before she ghosted. Only one turned into something semi-serious, where we actually dated for a while. And it’s no coincidence that she was the oldest one, 24, so she was slightly more mature and stable.
So as you can see, older guys can hook up with younger women.
And though it’s challenging, it’s even possible to have relationships with them as well…
Now I didn’t didn’t write this post to disparage Craig or his Mom.
I respect his choices, it’s his life, and he’s doing just fine without my advice!
But this story shows you how some men, even exceptional ones, can limit their thinking.
If a man has the skill, and he’s willing to be slightly unconventional, then anything’s possible.
Even banging teenagers when you’re a middle-aged dude!
Oh, and thanks to Craig and his Mom for inspiring this post!
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