I made mistakes in my 20’s.
Spending five years getting a four-year college degree.
Living with my parents for too long.
Wasting time with low-quality friends.
Too much booze and drugs.
And playing too many video games.
But looking back on it?
One thing tops the list.
Back then, I was very blue pill.
Yeah I’d started young, had some natural game.
But I was pretty naïve about women.
My introverted personality was part of it.
I liked having a girlfriend, so I almost always had one.
And since I didn’t know about harems back then, I was a serial monogamist instead.
Moving from one mono relationship to the next, like a monkey swinging on vines.
I cared about (some) of those girls, sure.
But the relationships almost always lasted too long.
The longest was for over four years!
I spent four years with the same girl during college.
And I never cheated on her.
Eventually though, that relationship failed.
Just like all my other monogamous relationships.
Do you think I feel noble about my idealistic fidelity?
Think I fantasize about those years spent as a good boy, dick under wraps?
I wish I’d banged all those pretty young girls.
Now, I don’t think long-term relationships are bad.
Monogamous love can be a beautiful thing.
Serial monogamy is dangerous for introverted men.
Are you a quiet man who craves emotional connection with women?
Find yourself drawn to the “safety” of long-term monogamous relationships?
You may be a serial monogamist.
Reconsider your ways.
Here’s why quiet men should avoid monogamy:
You’re too invested
Introverted men can get too emotionally invested in their woman.
But she doesn’t love you like you love her.
She’s not worth it
You are unlikely to find a girl who is worth promising monogamy to.
Ask yourself, honestly, is she really worth it?
You’re wasting time
You’ll likely end up spending too much time with someone you shouldn’t, due to intertia.
Young introverts are especially vulnerable to this.
You ARE missing out
You have no soul mate.
There is always someone else.
And you’re likely to miss out on better prospects if you’re tied to just one girl.
You’re too sensitive
Some say that introverts are more vulnerable to pretty faces.
And quiet men are definitely more likely to feel emotions more deeply than extroverted dudes…
So when relationships end, introverts take longer to recover.
You have no safety net
Men are more likely to ignore friends and family when they’re in a relationship.
And since most introverts have fewer friends to begin with?
They’re really vulnerable when their relationship ends.
Sound like you? If so, build a social network now, so you’re not relying only on your girlfriend for emotional support.
You’ll get obsessed
Introverts tend to over-think.
Once his relationship ends, a quiet man will over-analyze, trying to “figure things out.”
And that’s a complete waste of time, mental masturbation.
An introverted man is likely to hide himself after bad breakup.
Yeah, alone time is a good thing for quiet guys.
But too much isolation, especially if he’s depressed, is not a good thing.
You’re more vulnerable to depression
All the previous points lead to depression.
And depression = death.
What’s the answer to serial monogamy?
Dating multiple women, but being honest with them about it.
This set up is perfect for introverts, because it addresses and solves most of the issues we just went over.
So what does ethical non-monogamy look like in practice?
Depends on the guy.
But for me it usually means one main girl and one side girl.
With occasional flings and one-night stands for variety.
Non-monogamy takes strong game, yes.
You’ve gotta frame the relationship right from the beginning if you wanna make it work.
But if you can pull if off?
It’s the best relationship style for introverted men.
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