Although phone game is a dying art, it’s not dead yet.
Phone conversations are still useful before first dates.
They’re especially helpful for girls you’ve met on the internet – a smooth way to transition from online to IRL.
Chatting on the phone warms her up, makes her comfortable.
Thus increasing your chances of getting the quick bang.
No, I don’t always talk to girls before online first dates.
And I’ve gotten sex from online girls without ever speaking to them on the phone.
But I know for a fact that pre-date chats helps with conversion ratios.
Case in point – I found a cute 19-year-old girl on OKCupid last week.
Got her info and exchanged a few emails.
I could tell she was interested, but hesitant.
Probably due to the 17-year age gap.
I knew a phone conversation was in order.
But her cell phone was disconnected for non-payment!
So we Skyped instead – had a video call.
It went well.
She came straight to my house that night.
I banged her a few hours later.
No public first date, and no money spent.
The key to this bang?
The Skype conversation.
Skype is like a traditional phone call, but better.
Video calling lets you use more facets of your game.
It’s multi-dimensional, unlike the phone.
With Skype you use looks, style, body language, AND voice in your conversations.
Here’s how to use Skype to get laid:
The 21-point Skype date checklist…
You’ll need basic equipment to get started – a desktop or laptop computer with a camera and microphone. Headphones are optional but not recommended for aesthetic reasons.
Skype is free. Download it here, then install it onto your machine.
Choose your Skype username carefully. You’ll be giving it out to girls, so don’t pick anything weird or creepy. I use my real name for my Skype handle. I suggest you do the same.
Unlike phone calls, visuals matter with Skype. She can see you. But she’ll mostly see your torso, arms, and face. A well-fitting V-neck t-shirt is a solid option. Dress shirts also work. Just pick something flattering. Consider the contrast between your shirt and your background – be sure they don’t blend together. And definitely don’t go shirtless.
Women are sensitive to color and decor. So pick your setting carefully. A well-decorated office or living room is a good choice. If you’ve got a nice view outside your window, use that to your advantage. Avoid dirty, messy backgrounds. If you’re using a desktop you’re kinda limited. But if you’ve got a laptop you should move it and use a flattering background.
Lighting is vital. You don’t wanna look dark and creepy. In daytime, crack your shades for some natural light. During nighttime, make sure you’ve got strong lighting so she can see you clearly.
7) Text/email first
So, you’ve got an online prospect lined up from OKCupid, POF, or wherever. You already know to get her number or email address fast, within 2-3 emails. Then…
8) Move to Skype
Once you’re communicating via text or email, suggest a Skype conversation. You can do this either before or after setting up the first IRL date. If you don’t have real date scheduled yet, you’ll set up that up at the end of your Skype call.
9) Add her to contacts
Once you’ve exchanged Skype handles, you’ll need to add her to contacts. If she’s already added you, accept her request. If she hasn’t, send her a request and wait for her to confirm it.
Video calls can induce anxiety if you’re inexperienced. If you’re feeling nervous, clear your head before the call. Here’s how: Sit up straight in the chair you’ll be using. Plant your feet on the floor, legs wide. Rest your arms on the armrests, or at your side. Close your eyes. Take deep breathes using your belly. Touch your tongue to the roof of your mouth. Keep it there. Inhale and exhale through your nose, mouth closed. Be mindful of your breathing. Allow your thoughts to drift past like clouds. Don’t focus or fixate on any one idea.
11) Get pumped up
Maybe you need a boost to get you energized and pumped up pre-call, instead? Stand in the wide-legged V-pose for two minutes to get your testosterone flowing.
12) Call her
Once you’ve added each other to contacts, it’s time for the call. If she’s eager, she may actually call you. No big deal if this happens, but you should always try call her first.
13) Screen her
Skype is an effective visual screener. Use it to make sure she’s attractive before the real date. Get her to stand up during the call. Ask to see tattoos or piercings. Get a look at her body. If she’s not up to your standards, cut the call short and next her.
Speak slowly and clearly. Keep your voice steady. Consciously slow it down if you’ve got the tendency to talk fast. You may need to speak slightly louder than normal so the microphone picks up your voice.
15) Body language
Body language matters here. Avoid fast or jerky movements. Adopt strong body posture. Lean back with your arms behind your head. Look like you own the place, which you do. If you’ve got nice body and arms you can show them off casually. Smile on occasion. Don’t get too close to the camera.
16) Check yourself
Skype has a video box function so you can see yourself in real-time. This is an invaluable tool. You can use it to watch yourself during the entire call. Monitor your own body language and movements and make adjustments as needed. She won’t know the difference – she can’t see that you’re not looking at her. You could also buy a Skype call recorder and watch yourself later, if you’re so inclined.
What should you talk about? Think of this as a regular first date, with similar topics. Keep it interesting. Talk about travel, movies, TV shows, celebrity gossip, drugs and alcohol, partying. Then discuss relationships, dating, and sex. Avoid boring or taboo topics like work, school, politics, or religion. If you’ve got a laptop, walk around and give her a virtual “tour” of your living space. And introduce her to your household pets, if you’ve got any.
A 20-30 minute conversation is minimum. 40-60 minutes is best for establishing real comfort.
Listen while she talks. Don’t take notes, but try to remember any important stuff. Later you can build on what you already know about her, and avoid asking the same questions.
20) Lock down the date
If you haven’t already, you’ll want to schedule your real life date towards the end of your call. Feel her out. Should you meet in public for drinks or coffee? Or have her come straight to your house? You decide, calibrate, and pull the trigger. The sooner you see her, the better.
Remember, she may not be familiar with Skype. So be patient with setup. Keep your email open if you need to figure out glitches or get cut off. Skype also has a IM chat feature if needed.
So I like Skype; it’s almost tailor-made for seduction.
It’s an efficient way to warm up girls you’ve met online.
Especially very young women who are sensitive to meeting older guys online.
Yes Skype is slightly more challenging than traditional phone game.
But because of its design, it’s also a good way to practice and improve your game.
If you date online, you should give it a try.
It’ll streamline your dating process and help you get laid.
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