A reader sends this email:
Great site and solid guest posts on Return of Kings. I like your idea of building up a harem and I have decided to try to get one going. Just getting started here.
So, I had sex with a girl on Saturday night that I met at a bar. I would like to see if I can start a harem with her, and then maybe bring back an ex that I never totally broke up with.
My question is, what is the best way to get a girl into your harem once you have gotten a one-night stand. Should I just date her for a bit, or be a bit more aloof than usual? Do you dangle the possibility of a relationship or just make it clear that you are nothing but a hookup?
It seems like proper timing of your texts & meet ups is important here. I was thinking of waiting a whole week to text her again but then again I might lose the momentum that way.
Thanks David, I appreciate the email.
Here’s a modified version of the answer I gave him:
He wants to add this girl to his harem. So, he should have sex with her again as quickly as possible.
Keep in mind that women normally have many options. If he wants to keep her around, he should act fast. If he waits too long for the second lay she may drift away. He should not wait a whole week. He should fuck her again immediately. Between the first and second time you have sex with a girl do not be aloof. Text her the very next day. Try to get her back to your house fast.
Texting her the next day also helps you avoid any false rape accusations. I use a smart phone app to back up all my texts to my email archive. That way I have a record of everything all women ever text me. Get her to send you a positive text the next morning after first sex. Even if you intend to never see her again. This is just an insurance policy for you.
Once he has sex with her two separate times, she will be somewhat locked into him. He can resume his aloof attitude after he has sex with her for the second time. He should not dangle the possibility of a relationship or promise her anything. He should not text her too much and he should almost never call her.
Remember, make your harem members cum every single time you have sex. If they don’t cum, they won’t last long.
Establish the proper frame from the beginning of the relationship. Being aloof is important, but so is your timing. Maintain your frame and you will be rewarded with a long-lasting and manageable harem.
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