A reader sent an email asking about sex talk during the seduction phase. He wasn’t sure how to talk about sex on first dates with new girls. Now, his question shows the anxiety many guys feel when seducing new women. That’s because sex talk takes you way outside your comfort zone – it’s awkward if you’re not used to doing it!
Why Should You Use Sex Talk?
For introverted guys, or guys without much experience, talking about sex on first dates seems weird. It goes against the natural instinct to be a nice guy or gentleman. But you must overcome that if you wanna get laid…
Now, is sex talk necessary on every first date?
Can you get laid without talking about sex?
I’ve found that sex talk is NOT always needed. Sometimes confidence and game and touching her are enough. If you’re a man with strong sexuality, then you can often get away with not talking about sex – if you do everything else right.
But not always.
With some girls, you DO need to talk about sex. And so you should know how to talk about sex on your first dates – even if you don’t always do it.
How Does Talking About Sex Help You?
First, if you can talk about sex and old boyfriends without getting upset, it makes you look good. You’ll appear confident and experienced and un-intimidated by her sexuality.
Second, sex talk will make her horny. If she’s remembering the good sex she’s had, and you’re asking her questions about what she likes, she’s bound to get horny. And she’s gonna want a release for that…
Third, you can learn a lot about a new girl by talking about sex. Women are very candid if they think you’re not gonna judge them. And that’s a good way to learn about a girl’s character before having a relationship with her.
Sex Talk Questions
I’ve found the best way to segue into sex talk is to ask about her past relationships first. For example, start by asking her about her last important boyfriend or relationship. Once she starts talking about that, ask her more probing questions.
- When did she lose her virginity. How was it?
- What’s the most adventurous thing she’s done, sexually?
- How does she like to cum?
- Does she masturbate?
- Does she watch porn? What kind?
Basically, any question that gets her talking about sex, and that gets her juices flowing, is good.
When To Not Talk About Sex
Don’t get weird or intense when talking about sex. Don’t act horny or lustful or desperate. Make sure you’re calm and relaxed when talking about it. Be matter of fact – like you’re just vaguely curious about her, and that’s it.
And if a new girls seems uncomfortable? Or if you can sense that she doesn’t want to talk about it? Don’t force her. Either don’t bring it up or just change the subject. Remember that talking about sex is NOT mandatory on first dates! Yes it can help, sometimes. But it can also hurt you if done badly.
Oh, and remember, never ask her how many men she’s slept with! That’s the one thing you should never bring up. Everything else is fair game.
Mastering sex talk is important. Yes it can help you get laid if done right, but it’s not always needed. If your game is strong enough, then you can get away with not talking about sex on first dates – and still get laid.
But there’s one first date skill that you can’t skip:
Touching her during the seduction phase.
We’ll explore that next.