I’ve gone on almost a hundred first dates.
And one thing I’ve learned?
Talking is important!
Of course, that’s no big surprise.
Knowing what to say, and how to say it, is a huge part of gaming a new girl. You must speak clearly, project your voice, control the conversation – it’s all vital.
But verbal game is just one part of the puzzle. Body language is key to seducing a new prospect. Because non-verbal communication speaks volumes. And women are pros at reading it
So when you’re on a first date with a new girl, you’ve gotta focus on body language game if you want to maximize your results.
1) Touch Her A Lot
Touching women is essential, because it’s very effective. Touching her quickly teaches her to be comfortable with you. It’s a way of displaying your confidence. It shows her that you like her, and subtly tells her that you wanna bang her. And it’s a screening tool – to see if she likes you. If she’s into you, she’ll let you touch her. And if she really likes you, she’ll touch you back.
If she doesn’t want your hands on her? Believe me, she’ll let you know. And that’s your cue to cut things short.
So start touching early and often on an first date. I usually start ten to fifteen minutes in. I’ll try to start by touching her at a high point in the conversation, for example when we’re both laughing at a joke. But that’s not possible I’ll just eventually grab her hand, talk about her nails or rings, then go from there.
Where should you touch her? Begin with her hands, fingernails, forearms, upper arms, and shoulders. Eventually move to her face, ears, hair, neck, knees, legs, and feet. If you’re more advanced, you can touch her belly, inner and outer thighs, lower back, hips, and waist. Ease into body touching by asking about her body indirectly – discuss her work out regime, or any tattoos and piercings.
Mix touching with…
2) Strong Eye Contact
Just like the proverbial picture, a seductive stare is worth a thousand words. So you’ve gotta learn to project sexual desire with your eyes. In layman’s terms – you’ve gotta eye-fuck the hell out of her, my friend.
Once she’s finally in front of you and you’ve been chatting for a while, lock eyes with her. Then imagine you’re both telepathic, and that she can clearly hear your sexual intent through your gaze:
I’m gonna fuck you good, you little bitch.
If she’s feeling you, and you’re doing it right, she’ll return your gaze. And if there’s a strong connection, you may actually get lost in each other’s eyes. The world will seem to fade away and you’ll sort of “melt” into each other. That’s kinda rare, but when it happens, you’ll know it’s on!
Another important point – always “win” the eye contact battle with her. Meaning, once you lock eyes with a girl, never look away first. This is a subtle way to establish dominance.
3) Talking With Your Hands
Sometimes I speak in monotone. So to make up for it, I use my a lot hands when I talk.
Using hand movements isn’t as powerful as touching. But it does make you more interesting. Hand gestures animate you, and they keep her mesmerized. Hand movements are especially clutch when you’re telling stories. When painting a picture with your words, draw the same picture with your hands.
If using your hands doesn’t come naturally, watch actors who are good at it. For example, check out the “Funny How?” scene from Goodfellas:
4) Ultra-Relaxed Seating Posture
Relaxed posture is another part of body language game. It’s easy to ignore, because it seems like such a small thing – but it matters.
Alternate between leaning forward & touching her, with relaxing back in your seat. And when you do sit back – do it like a boss. Like you own the place. Spread your legs wide, lean back in your chair, and lace your fingers behind your neck. Seem calm and slightly bored. Look around a little, but not too much. Looking relaxed like this is easy to do, and it displays a masculine and confident mindset.
Body language game is more subtle than verbal game, so it’s easy to ignore.
But it’s a vital tool for players in the seduction phase – mandatory for first dates.
So use non-verbal seduction the next time you’re trying to get a woman into bed.
Do it right, and you’ll massively increase your odds of getting laid.