Introversion is strength, not weakness.
It’s just that many men don’t understand their own introversion.
So they grow up thinking there is something “wrong” with them, since society is mostly geared towards extroverts.
That lack of understanding can hinder introverted men until they realize what they are, how they operate, and how they’re different.
That doesn’t mean all is lost.
Introverts can do well with women if they’re willing to respect the game, evolve, and make some changes.
Sometimes that means stepping out of comfort zones.
So, how can young introverts accelerate social development?
Working in the hospitality industry.
Restaurants, bars, coffee shops, nightclubs, strip clubs, hotels, etc.
Although it might seem counterintuitive – it’s a superb way to socialize quiet young men.
Like finishing school for introverted guys aged 14 to 23.
I worked in restaurants and bars during high school and college – busboy, server, barback, bartender, manager, and doorman.
Eventually I got out of restaurants & bars. But I always enjoyed that kind of work – despite my introversion.
Benefits Of Hospitality – Working In Restaurants, Bars, & Clubs
It’s Fun – with the right mindset, working with people in the hospitality industry can be incredibly fun.
Easy To Get Work – most entry-level hospitality jobs are low-skill and thus easy to get. You’ll just need a good attitude and the ability to walk, talk and write.
Practice State Control – it’s inevitable. Eventually you’ll need to deal with drunk, disorderly, or just plain rude people. Or, you’ll get “slammed” on busy days and have a hard time keeping up. All this is a good test of state control and learning to stay calm under pressure.
Super-Social – this is the main benefit for introverted men. Hospitality work is social by default. You’re constantly interacting with customers and co-workers. Most introverts naturally avoid people. So this is good self-imposed socialization – and a way to quickly build a social circle if that’s your goal.
Learn Charm & Charisma – when working for tips, how much cash you make is directly tied to your ability to be nice. Working in the hospitality industry will teach a man to be friendly & charming.
Develop Sales Skills – how much money you make is tied to your ability to earn tips, but also on your ability to up-sell your customers. Face-to-face sales experience is a valuable skill for any man. It’ll help a young guy later on with game, business, and life in general.
Fast Cash – depending on the venue, the money can be very good. And you make it fast – same night. No waiting for bi-weekly paychecks.
Girls – one of the main benefits to hospitality industry work. The service industry has extremely high turnover. There are always new girls getting hired and fired. So the job itself is another way to meet them, a way to practice social circle game.
Free Or Discounted Food – another big benefit to working in restaurants. If you’re a young guy, chances are you lift weights or work out. That means you need to eat – often. Working in restaurants is an excellent way to cut your food bill. Most places offer free or discounted food for employees.
Despite the positives, there are some downsides:
Hospitality Industry Cons:
Long Hours & Late Nights – most of the time, you’ll be working very long hours and late nights. Although night owls might prefer it, eventually it’ll mess up your sleep schedule until you’re living like a vampire.
Party Lifestyle – no denying it, this kind of work is conducive to alcohol and drug use. Fun, but dangerous for some people. Some might see the lifestyle as a plus, but after a while it wears on you.
Energy Draining – hospitality work is physically draining. You’ll be on your feet for hours. And introverts are sure to feel mentally drained after a long shift – you’ll need your recovery time. But the nice thing? The shift always ends, you can always go home, re-charge, and be ready for another round the next day.
Fast Money – yes, I just listed this under the “pros.” The fast money can be good, but it can also be a bad thing for people who have impulse control issues…
Servile Job – when bussing, bartending, or waiting tables, you’re basically a glorified servant. A good way to learn some humility – but eventually it gets old. And new technology is making the industry more efficient, but less attractive for employees.
Idiots – you’ll have to deal with lots of idiots. Stupid managers, idiot co-workers, and asshole customers are just part of the job.
Social Status – this one is a wild card. In some places working in restaurants signals low social status. In other places, being a bartender or door guy might be great for elevating your status. Depends on the venue and culture you’re in.
Of course, some guys might make a career out of it, even become venue owners. But for most introverts, hospitality work likely won’t be their a long-term career choice.
Either way, even a short stint in the industry can be an invaluable way to polish an introvert’s game and help him develop social skills he’ll use for life.