I’ve written about first date red flags before.
But today we’re gonna talk about a different type of indicator – relationship red flags.
These signals give you insight into a woman’s mindset, preferences, and past.
They help you decide if she’s worth investing in emotionally.
And so for that reason, learning to read them is a valuable relationship game skill.
Let’s go over some common relationship red flags.
All of these are real examples from various girls I’ve been involved with over the years:
1) She’s Been Raped
This is the saddest red flag because it’s not usually her fault. But women who’ve been raped or molested make terrible mates. It depends on severity, and how old she was when it happened, of course. But if she’s ever been raped be very careful with her. You can’t fix her so don’t even try.
2) Abusive Relationships
Despite the myths, the truth is that women who stay in abusive relationships enjoy being abused. And girls who like getting hit are bad relationship material. So even if you’re not an abuser, the fact that she chose to stay with abusive men should give you pause. She just brings too much baggage.
3) Talks About Past Lovers
If she talks about her past lovers at the beginning of your relationship, without dwelling on anyone, it’s not a big deal. But if she brings up the same man from her past repeatedly, then he’s still heavy on her mind. And she’s likely thinking about him when she’s with you. She’s an alpha widow and you’re not the alpha, my friend.
4) Contact With Old Lovers
This is a more subtle warning. It’s harder to catch and not always obvious, because she’ll probably hide it if she’s doing it. But if you learn that she’s still in regular contact with an ex or two, be extremely cautious.
5) Slutty Friends
Sluts often run in packs and egg each other on. And they’ll often use their sluttiest friend as a benchmark to justify bad behavior. “I’m not a slut! I’ve only fucked 25 guys! My friend Jane banged over a 100, she’s a real slut!” So look at her friends: are they normal girls or raging sluts?
6) Slutty Female Relatives
The slut gene seems to run in families. Meaning if a woman is a slut, there’s a strong chance she’ll pass her slut DNA on to her daughters. And besides the genetics, they’ll also learn by taking cues from her. This isn’t a hard and fast rule, but it’s a good indicator.
7) No Girl Friends
Lone wolf sluts are the polar opposites of sluts who run in packs. These loners tend to be older girls, but they’re just as bad. Be careful with a woman who has tons of male friends, but zero female friends. The fact that she can’t get along with other women means there’s something wrong with her.
8) High N-Count
The more men a woman has banged before you, the harder it is to lock her down and make her love you. This is one of the hardest indicators to gauge, because you shouldn’t ask her directly how many men she’s been with. You’ve often gotta make an educated guess.
9) Tattoos & Piercings
Tattoos and piercings are common these days, so this one isn’t as important. But here’s the rule of thumb: the more tattoos and piercings she has the worse she is likely to be for relationships. One or two isn’t usually a big deal. But lots of them is a negative sign.
10) Sexually Adventurous, Just Not With You
If she’s done things with other men that she won’t do with you, then that’s a big red flag. If she really loves you then she’ll almost always be down to do anything you want, sexually.
11) Drug & Alcohol Use
Younger women like drugs and alcohol so it’s normal for them to get intoxicated. But watch out for excessive use, especially in older women. Girls who routinely get black-out drunk or high often put themselves in dangerous situations.
12) Male Roommates
Beware of women living with non-relative men. They’ll often have many good excuses for doing this. But in general it’s a very bad sign.
13) Hates Animals
Never trust a woman who hates dogs, cats, or other animals. Normal, healthy girls love animals. So be cautious of those who don’t.
14) Travels Alone
Most women travel alone for one reason: to get strange new dick in exotic locations. This isn’t a hard and fast rule. She may have traveled for work, with an ex, or with her family. But it’s generally true that more travel equals more dick.
15) She’s A Stripper
Strippers are fun. But you should never take one seriously. Her whole entire life is one big fat red flag! This also applies to ex-strippers and women who work as ‘hostesses’ or ‘waitresses’ in strip clubs. It’s like they say – what’s the difference between a stripper and a strip club hostess? Two weeks.
16) Been Paid For Sex
This is obvious. A woman who’s been paid for sex is not relationship material. The problem is that these days, many ‘normal’ woman who seem like they would never do such a thing have been paid for it! And then there’s also the ‘sugar-daddy’ gray area. But if she’s exchanged sex for anything of value, be careful.
17) Bangs You Fast
This is a complicated flag, one that you shouldn’t read by itself. One the one hand if she really likes you and the chemistry is strong, she’s probably gonna fuck you fast. On the other hand, if she does that it means she’s likely done it with other men, too. Use your judgement.
18) Comes Straight To Your House
I’ve written about zero date bangs before. Girls who come straight to your house to fuck you after you found them on Tinder are only good for one thing; one-night stands or short-term flings. This is an extremely reliable red flag.
19) Gets Into Fights
If she gets into physical altercations, with men or women, then she’s bad news. And if you stay with her long enough eventually she’ll bring that violence into your life, too.
20) No Strong Father Figure
This is not always a deal breaker. But women without strong father figures tend to start looking for them early on. And so that generally means they become sexually active at a young age. It also means she’s likely to date men older than her. This is a double-edged sword for older men who like to date younger women!
21) Addicted To Porn
Women who watch excessive porn are usually damaged goods. And it’s the same if she’s currently into it, or if she was in the past. Watching porn hollows her out emotionally and destroys her ability to love. And it’s a small leap between consuming and making porn. So if she’s into porn, assume she’s also made sex videos and exchanged nudes with exes.
So what should you do if a women you’re dating flies these flags? I’m NOT saying you should end the relationship if she does!
Instead you must sort out your feelings for her, in your head. Put her in the right group based on the signals she’s giving you. It may be necessary to keep her at arm’s length emotionally.
Keep dating her if you want. But be honest with yourself and realistic about what she is. In the end it’s up to you to recognize red flags and make decisions based on them. And while there’s rarely need to take drastic action, you ignore them at your peril.
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