Many men find it easy to apply basic dating advice regarding physical appearance. Hitting the gym or buying a new wardrobe is simple. For most men these changes are easy to make. Men can force themselves to work out or go clothes shopping. Even if they hate it.
Things get trickier when advising men on changing internal attitudes. However, if you can adopt a beginner’s mind and are open to real change, you can make drastic improvements in the way you handle women.
Let’s examine some common dating stumbling blocks faced by men:
1) Being A Pussy
There is nothing women find more attractive than confidence. Consider the TV show Millionaire Matchmaker. The men featured are rich, so-called “Alpha Males” who are utterly useless with women. A millionaire who lacks confidence won’t be getting laid. Or he will scrape the bottom of the barrel at best. Money can help. But only if you already have other qualities that women want. A poor fry cook or a criminal thug with strong masculine confidence and the ability to convey it can clean up with women. There is one solution to your lack of confidence. You must practice. That’s it. Go on lots of dates. Learn game. Learn to embrace failure and use it to make you stronger. Your confidence level will rise with every new success and every rejection.
2) Outcome Dependent
Will she like me? Will I fuck this up? Think about those questions for second. Then ask yourself, do I truly care how this date turns out? Why? If this date does not work out then there are literally dozens of women out there waiting for a man like you. She is not your soul mate. No one woman is better than the other is. Always remember that. Stop worrying about how any one date turns out. They all add to your experience. You’ll be that much stronger and more confident on the next date. The only solution to outcome dependence is to go on more dates. You should never focus on one date at a time. If you are actively dating you should be scheduling two or three dates a week. Then you truly won’t care how any one date turns out.
3) Not Touching Her Enough
Many Western men are too passive. If this describes you, reject this tendency. Embrace your masculinity. Be a man, be aggressive. Social intelligence is very important; you must calibrate your approach properly. It goes without saying that when a woman says no, you must stop immediately. But never be afraid to touch a woman on a first date. Touch her! You will be punished for not escalating, but you’ll be rewarded for escalation. You’re a sexual man and you should never be ashamed to show it. So what’s the solution to timidity with women? You guessed it. Go on more dates and practice your game.
Unless you are a psychopath you will have some degree of nerves on all your dates. It’s OK to feel nervous. We all have ingrained attitudes and emotions that affect our thoughts and actions. This is normal and to be expected. Go on lots of dates. Work on improving your game. Just remember that you can evolve and permanently level up to improve your dating and seduction results.
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