Today we’re going to explore a powerful relationship game tool – the ‘soft next.’ Soft nexting is crucial for men who want strong, loving, long-term relationships with their women. It’s hard to overstate the importance of doing this correctly – soft nexting is a pillar of tight relationship game.
So let’s begin…
So, What’s A Soft Next?
If a woman you’re dating acts badly, then you cut her off for a set amount of time. Then once that time is up, you start up with her again, and resume the relationship like nothing happened.
A soft next is different from a hard next. With a hard next, you end it, and then never see or talk to her again. For example if she crosses the line into physical violence – hits you, steals from you, or destroys your things? Then you’d hard next her. If you’re screening women correctly then hard nexting should be very rare.
It’s Not A Breakup
How’s soft nexting different from a regular breakup? Well, breakups are often final. Many drag on for too long, and there’s usually tons of drama, emotions, talking, crying, etc. – from both sides.
But with a soft next, there’s none of that (from your side). A soft next is a clean, but temporary, break. You just walk away for a while, without giving her any drama.
When Should You Soft Next Women?
You can soft next her for any sort of bad behavior directed against you…
- Screaming or yelling
- Excessive crying & whining
- Giving ultimatums
- Making demands
- General disrespect
- Withholding sex
- Acting bitchy
- Being rude or unpleasant
For example, let’s say a girl you’re with gets jealous about your other women. And so she screams at you about it. Then she storms out of the your house, slamming the front door hard on her way out.
Now it’s time to soft next her…
So How Do You Do It?
First, make sure you don’t react emotionally to her bullshit, in any way. Then remove yourself from the situation as fast as possible.
In the example above – she’s already gone.
But if she’s still inside your place after acting up? Politely ask her to leave.
If you’re at her house when she loses it, leave.
If you’re in your car together or you’re in public? Stop talking, drop her off at her place as fast as possible, and then go home.
Now you ghost on her – no contact for a set amount of time. During that time, you don’t speak with her at all – total silence. No phone calls, texts, or emails, nothing.
For How Long?
How long you soft next her depends on what she did.
For minor offenses, two to four days is usually enough.
For serious violations, you may need to stretch it out for one, two, even three weeks.
During The Next
Nexting is simple in theory, but not always easy in practice. The hardest part is having the internal strength to keep up total silence during the next. How hard that is depends on how you feel about her.
But no matter how badly you want to talk to her, you must stay quiet and ignore her!
The best way to do this? Distract yourself with different women (if you need too). And if you don’t have a harem or have other stuff to do? Then immerse yourself in business, work, training, hobbies, studies, friends, etc. – anything to keep your mind off her.
Letting Her Come Back
You’ve gotta let her come back with no drama. So when the next time is over, contact her again. Be nice, no reason to be cold anymore. Have her come over, have sex, and start things up again. Oh, and after she returns, don’t talk about the next – just pick up where you left off.
How often should you next your girl? Well, hopefully the women you date don’t act up too often! If your game is tight, you shouldn’t have to next her much.
With well-behaved girls, you may never need to next them. With divas, you might need to do it more often. I’d guess the ‘average’ is one or two times per relationship.
After that, she’ll get the picture.
Why Does Soft Nexting Work?
Because the soft next is a type of ‘dread game.’
First, your cold and emotionless behavior makes her understand that you don’t really need her. And second, the separation will give her a taste of what life would be like without you.
If she cares about you, she won’t like being apart. And so she’ll want you back.
Most of the time, she’ll be so grateful she’s allowed to return (she thought you were gone forever!) that she’ll permanently correct her behavior. Now she’ll be sweet, kind, happy, and loving…at least until the next soft next 😀
Soft nexting isn’t punishment.
It’s a way to gently guide female behavior – by letting her know where your boundaries are.
Use it to get what you want out of your romantic relationships; without having to resort to controlling or abusive behavior.
The soft next is a foundation of relationship game.
Learn to do it right and you’ll be rewarded with stronger, better, long-term relationships.
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