You did it.
You got her number.
Kept your game tight.
Went on the first and second date.
Seduced her properly.
And now you’re finally back at your house.
Alone in your bedroom.
She’s splayed out naked, submitting herself.
Pussy dripping wet, legs spread, hips gyrating, clutching at you…
And your dick is soft as a marshmallow.
You clumsily try jamming it in.
But it keeps slipping out.
It stays stubbornly limp.
Finally, you quit trying.
And she eventually leaves, unsatisfied.
You never hear from her again.
I’ve been there before.
And it’s terrible…
There’s a new girl in your bed – and you just can’t get it up.
If you’re lucky, you haven’t experienced it yet. But bang enough women, and impotence will likely happen to you. Besides premature ejaculation, it’s the one of the most embarrassing things that can happen to a man.
On the one hand, poor performance shouldn’t matter much. You’ve got other options. And you can always pull another girl. So you shouldn’t care if she stays or goes.
But she also didn’t just fall into your bed. You’ve spent time, energy, and money seducing her. If you can’t bang her properly, then that’s wasted. And if you actually like her? Then you want to do well, so she’ll come back for more…
First off, understand that there are two types of impotence.
Permanent and situational.
With full, permanent impotence, a man can’t get hard. Ever. That could be due to age, an injury, or other factors. If that’s you, then you need a doctor, not this blog post.
But situational impotence is different. It’s temporary. That’s when a man normally has no problem getting hard, but only experiences impotence sometimes. If you’re experiencing temporary, situational impotence, don’t worry. You can overcome it. But it helps to understand why…
Can’t get hard? It happens for different reasons…
Situational anxiety is caused by different things. You may experience these one at a time, or concurrently.
New Partner Jitters
This happens when you bang a new girl for the first time. If you’re not fully comfortable with her, it can affect your erection. This can also be influenced by her looks. Normally this goes away after you’ve banged her few times.
Also common with new partners. This happens when you really like her, and want to bang her like a champion. But then you end up caring too much about performing, and not enough about pleasure. That pressure can kill your hard-on.
If you’ve got deep-seated sexual anxiety, that may affect your ability to get erect. Issues that developed early on and are affecting your sex life are beyond the scope of this post. If that’s you, seek professional help.
Weak Inner Game
These first three issues tie to inner game. So if you lack confidence and have overall weak inner game, that will show in your sexual performance. This is common in younger or more inexperienced men.
She’s Not Your Type
If the girl you’re banging doesn’t turn you on, it may kill your boner. It’s one reason to avoid fat or ugly girls – they are literal boner-killers. Or sometimes, your penis will tell you “no” on a particular girl. This can happen with new partners who simply aren’t right for you, even if they are physically attractive. Or you may experience impotence with an old partner after the relationship goes bad, and you shouldn’t be banging her anymore.
Drugs or Alcohol Use
Narcotics and alcohol can hinder erections. Hard liquor and drugs like whiskey and cocaine are notorious boner-killers.
All types of outside stress can temporarily lead to low libido.
Here’s how to handle impotence, if it happens to you…
Situational impotence is a minor, temporary speed bump. Handle it right and it won’t turn into an issue…
This is a balancing act. You don’t want to complain, whine, or look for sympathy from her. But if you potentially care about her, you also don’t want her to think it’s her. So it’s OK to tell her impotence happens to you sometimes with new partners. When you do talk about it with her, remember…
Be Cool About It
Your attitude here is key. Never get upset, frustrated, angry, or apologetic. Brush it all off. It’s a test. Even if you’re upset you must stay chill and relaxed. Like it’s no big deal. Because it really isn’t. And if you stay relaxed, she’ll stay calm. And that makes things easier to work through.
Remove Stress or Substances
Evaluate your life honestly. If outside stress is causing impotence, deal with it so you can enjoy sex again. And if you can’t get hard because you’re drinking too much or doing too many drugs? Well, you don’t need me to tell you how to fix that…
Don’t Force It
Sex should be fun. It’s not a competition. So don’t push yourself too hard. No rush. Ease into it. If it’s stressing you out, take a break, rest for a bit, then try again later.
Of course safe sex is ideal. But using condoms makes sex more difficult. Condoms throw things off. And they cut sensitivity, which is critical here. If you’re struggling to get erect, putting on a condom is just another distraction. Skip the condom if you can.
Use Oral Sex
Oral sex is a wildcard. It’s good foreplay, and it will usually get you hard. But not always. Here are a few tips for using oral to overcome temporary impotence:
Lick Her Pussy – Licking pussy will give you a face full of female pheromones. For some men, that translates into an instant boner. You may not want to do it. But if she’s attractive, this is an ideal way to get hard fast.
Blowjob – Blowjobs don’t always cure impotence. But they can help. I’ve found that if you can’t get hard, a standing blowjob works well. Meaning, you stand up with her kneeling underneath you. Have her look at you while does it. Use the visual to get hard.
Make Her Lick Your Balls – I don’t know about you, but having a girl run her tongue up and down my balls gets me hard almost every time. If you’re struggling to get erect, drop your testicles into her mouth and see what happens.
69 – I find the 69 highly exciting. If you’re the same, a 69 session will get you hard as a rock.
Try the Soft Entry Technique
Soft entry is an old Daoist sexual technique. It involves penetrating her while you’re still soft, then using her vagina to get a full erection. This is an advanced sex technique, but I know from experience that it works very well. For more details, read my book Red Pill Orgasm.
Use Sex Drugs
If nothing else works, performance-enhancing sex drugs are your last resort. No shame in that. If you need an extra boost, and nothing else works, then why not? I’ve tried Cialis. I liked it, and would do it again. I haven’t tried Viagra yet, but when I do I’ll report back to you.
Situational impotence is part of life…
Bang enough girls, and it’ll probably happen to you too. And even when you understand it, it doesn’t always make sense. With some girls, you’ll get hard as a rock right away. With others, you’ll struggle.
If you experience it?
Just remember that situational impotence is temporary and normal.
Use these tips, and you’ll overcome it smoothly.