Reading this blog, you might assume I only date girls much younger than me.
I do prefer dating younger women.
But occasionally, I’ll also date women my age (I’m almost 40).
Some say older women make better partners. They’re supposedly smarter, more sophisticated, mature, and experienced. Others say young women are ideal mates, because, well, they’re younger, hotter, and tighter!
But is there really a big difference between the two age groups?
Here’s what I’ve learned…
1) Partner Count
You might think that younger women have had fewer sex partners, but this depends on the girl. For example, an 18-year old might have started having casual sex when she was young. So by the time she hits legal age, she’s already been sexually active for several years, with multiple partners. In contrast, I’ve met older women who preferred long-term relationships – so they’d only been with a small handful of men.
There’s this idea that women get better with age. While that might be true of men, it’s generally not the case with women. A woman’s personality doesn’t change much past the age of 18 or 19. Sure she might go through a slutty phase when she’s young; she might be wilder and more immature as a teen. But a woman who’s difficult at 18 will likely still be difficult in her 30’s. And a smart, easy-going 18-year old is likely still gonna be good when she’s older.
Younger girls are usually easier to seduce. They’re often more open to adventure sex, partying, doing drugs, drinking, etc. A younger woman is more likely to be in her experimental phase. But it really depends on where she’s at in her life. A newly divorced 36-year old on vacation might be just as horny and curious and wild as an 18-year old college girl.
Does sex with a 18-year old girl feel much different from sex with an older woman? Not really. Some older women are better at sex, since they’ve had more experience. But not always. I find that I often get more sexually excited with younger women, my body seems to have a more primal reaction. But again, this really depends on the girl. If I’m strongly attracted to a 30+ woman, then her age makes no real difference during sex.
5) Dating & Relationships
I’ve found that younger women are generally easier to date. They’re typically more easy-going and less demanding. They’re not usually in as much of a hurry to get married and have kids. They also tend to test you less, they’re easier to please. In contrast, older women tend to be more difficult. And the ones who don’t have kids yet are often in a hurry to have them, which can put pressure on relationships.
Since they’ve lived longer, older girls have had more time to accumulate baggage. Ex-boyfriends, children, physical scars, mental scars, etc. And they’re likely to bring all that weight and let it affect their relationship with you. Younger women tend to bring less baggage, because they often have less experience.
In general, younger woman have an advantage when it comes to looks. She’s theoretically at her peak at 18. But that’s in an ideal world. In the real world there are fat and gross 18-year olds! And there are super-fit and hot 33-year olds. So it depends on the woman, her values, and the culture she’s in. Younger woman are usually better-looking, but not always.
This is one of the main disadvantages of dating younger women. They rarely have much money. So they’ll expect you to pay for everything. Uber rides, drinks, food, cigarettes, etc. Older women tend to be more stable financially. So they can often pay their own way, or at least pay half. And that makes them less expensive to date.
It’s more likely that an older women will have kids. This can limit her ability to have a real relationship with you, or spend much time with you, since her kids will always come first. On the plus side, if she has kids then she’s less likely to pressure you for more.
I prefer dating younger women.
And I’ll keep doing it as long as I can.
But I’ve also had some great experiences with women my age.
In the end, it really comes down to the individual woman.
So while her age might be an important factor, it’s not always the deciding one.
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